I hate spanking.
Spankings put me in a bad mood and when I give spankings, I immediately feel like I need to give another spanking because I'm so upset that Emma got me to the point of her needing a spanking.
Does that make sense?
And just so you know, spankings are very infrequent here, as I HATE giving them.
And Emma has gotten so lazy about listening without arguing and following directions and all that not so fun for her stuff.
So, I'm now at the point where I am SOOOO tired of fighting with her and arguing with her, so I've made some decisions.
I enforced them for the first time last night.
She spent the night with my mom the night before last and when she came home yesterday, my mom told me that, as always, Emma did not want to listen to her AT ALL, she was a little on the wild side and THEN to top it all off, she CUT HER HAIR!!!!
A big chunk, right outta the front.
I was so angry.
I was too angry to spank her, because I'm always scared that I may spank too hard or too much or something when I'm THAT angry.
So, I came to the conclusion that spankings really don't work anyway.
They scare Emma half to death and they make me feel like I just wanna jump off a bridge.... not really, but seriously, I get in a funk when I spank Emma.
So, I told her that for TWO DAYS she was not going to watch any of her "shows" (aka any of the 7 cartoon networks we have on our tv) or her dvds.
Friends, you would really have thought I was holding her down on the kitchen table and sawing her arm off.
It was SO MUCH worse than if I had just spanked her.
Seriously.
She lives and breathes her "shows" and dvds.
She cried off and on for two hours and told me at least a hundred times how sorry she was.
So, this morning, she and I both COMPLETELY forgot about this punishment.
We got up and did what we do every morning...
-She and I got Noah up and I changed him.
-We went to the kitchen, I made both of them a cup of chocolate milk.
-Noah and I came upstairs to watch Sesame Street, eat muffins, and for me to check all my internet stuff.
-And Emma went and got back into my bed and promptly turned my tv to her cartoon of choice.
About thirty minutes into this routine, the light bulb came on and I jumped out of my chair, flew down the stairs, ran wide eyed into my room and glared at Emma... at the tv... at Emma... at the tv...
And without me even saying anything, Emma said, "Oh, Mommy!!!! I FORGOT, I FORGOT!!!"
What could I say, I forgot too.
So, off the tv went and all has been well and good.
I can't wait to see if this actually works and she behaves better the next time she's away from home... and when she's AT home.
I did tell her, though, that from this point on, when she misbehaves, breaks a rule, or deliberately doesn't listen, I'm either going to take away her tv or take away a favorite toy.
I hope it works....
Suggestions?